Most couples aren't fighting about what they think they're fighting about. Underneath the dishes, the money, the tone of voice, is a pattern that runs itself once it starts.

And it usually goes something like: one of you moving toward the conflict, the other moving away from it. This free guide gives you four scripts for the four moments that actually decide where that pattern goes.

WHAT'S INSIDE

      The Pause: when you feel a fight starting to spiral, before it turns into the one you always have.

      The Reach: how to reconnect within hours of a blowup or shutdown.

      The Ask: how to name what you actually need instead of relitigating the surface issue.

      The Debrief: how to talk about the pattern when you're both calm, so you catch it faster next time.

WHO THIS IS FOR

Couples who love each other and who are tired of having the same fight in a new outfit.
You don't need to be in crisis to use these.
Most of the couples I work with wish they'd had this years earlier.